Resilience is defined as toughness, or "the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties." And in researcher language, it's "positive adaptation despite adversity." But is it something we're born with? Can we develop more of it? And can we use it up as we go through life? When Resilience Begins Science indicates that resilience is not uniform across people, places, or situations. So … [Read more...] about Resilience: What Is It, and How Can I Get More of It?
When we practice gratitude, it's good for our emotional and physical health, with recent studies reporting benefits such as less stress, better sleep, fewer aches and pains, and better heart health. But how often do we practice gratitude toward our self? There are many ways to practice gratitude, of course, from saying thank you to making lists and writing letters. Martin Seligman, the … [Read more...] about Practice Gratitude for and to Yourself
The sign caught my eye as I cruised down the hall in between meetings, and I stopped in my tracks. "I AM," it read. "Two most powerful words, for what you put after them shapes your reality." The sentiment stayed with me. For several days, its declaration sank in further, as I considered how I described myself to others, what words I said to myself (self-talk), and how I viewed myself … [Read more...] about I Am: Two of the Most Powerful Words
Each day, we're faced with hundreds of small decisions to make. And often, our priorities collide. That can feel especially true during the busy holiday season. Do I start my shopping from the couch, or lace up my boots and go hiking with my family? What about that extra glass of wine I want to have with my friends, even though it's likely to throw off my sleep schedule? Should I eat the … [Read more...] about Decisions, Decisions: When Priorities Collide
The sun was setting on a full day, from a conference that had filled my mind yet prevented me from getting in my usual morning exercise, to a lengthy appointment and numerous conversations that all together had worn me down. As I began my drive home, I noticed my irritation when my cell phone buzzed three more times to announce incoming texts and another phone call. I started to replay the … [Read more...] about Being Aware – and Taking Care – of Our Own Needs
Co-existing in my mind are both a bully and a friend. And it can depend on the day or hour which one takes up more of the real estate there. My bully can be loud, latching onto a negative thought I have about myself, repeating it, amplifying it. But after becoming aware of just how much power I was giving that bully, I've worked instead on nurturing the friend. We can quiet the … [Read more...] about How to Quiet the Bully in Your Mind